DISQUS

pamela munro · 1 year ago

My husband & I have few financial secrets - I certainly don't withhold much - He may be overly positive - but not trying to deceive - I think that's what makes our marriage a good one.

Pinyo · 1 year ago

Excellent. In our household, there is no secret. What's mine is hers and what hers is hers.

Money Matters · 1 year ago

Pinyo, you're a funny guy - that's why I like you.. :)

Llama Money · 1 year ago

Nearly all of my friends and coworkers have some "shedont" money laying around. That is, money "she dont" know about. They use it on beer, poker, strippers, whatever.

I won't lie - I've *considered* underestimating my income to my wife, so that I could sock some more away. And undoubtedly we'd have much more money in savings if I did so. If she doesn't know about it, she sure can't spend it. But I refuse to do anything of the sort. I don't lie to my wife about anything ( it's non-negotiable to me ), and I won't start with money. Even if I had the greater good in mind ( more financial security for us ), I won't lie to her. If you have to lie to your spouse, then you shouldn't be married.

Money Matters · 1 year ago

@ Llama, I agree completely, I've considered saving more income before it
even hits the bank account before, but I don't want to be deceptive. As I
shared, I have been deceptive in small ways, and it wasn't good. I'm
learning the lessons from that. I think we all fight the urges to be selfish
in relationships (men and women). Lying about money is just one more area
we need to be careful of.

gr8tful4grace · 1 year ago

Excellent post! I'm all for complete honesty. Anything less, has the potential of hurting hearts and harming marriages.